Yes, you read the title right!! There are things that you can do that will get you to top knotch wedding guest status.
1. RSVP……even if you think you don’t have to !
This is number one for a reason!! Brides and their planners take the time to mail out all those beautifully stamped envelopes and they need a response . The guest count affects wedding planning tremendously from the bar, food, cake and decor. No matter how close your are to the bride and groom, they want to know that will or will not be attending. Brides get stressed when planning a wedding and you don’t want to be part of that now, do you? Be a good guest and respect the rules. Send your response in the time frame they have given and by all means, only respond for the guests listed on the invitation. Please don’t add guests that are not accounted for or are not personally invited.
2. Arrive at the ceremony site early.
An hour to 45 minutes before the wedding is good. Be sure to search the venues location a week before the wedding to see the exact distance. Check the traffic and the weather for the day as well. Once you arrive, you have to find parking, use the powder room, sign the guest book and find your seat. 5 minutes before the wedding starts is just not good enough. So be prepared!!
3. Turn your phone off.
Again, I know we live in a world that is technology dependent. I dont leave the house without my phone and rarely turn it off but the last thing you want is to be the guest that ruined the wedding ceremony because your Snapchat, Facebook AND Periscope alerts went off at the very moment the bride walked down the aisle!! Way to steal the spotlight! Just take the safe route and turn your phone completely off.
4. Respect the wedding photographer .
The couple has invested lots of money to document their day ….professionally! We live in the Instagram world, I mean who doesn’t love a good wedding hashtag but trust me, ten years from now, the couple will look back on the professional images that their photographer captured, not your blurry over filtered iphone photo. Save the camera phone for the reception congo line unless the couple has requested to completely unplug and in that case, respect their wishes. Most couples have viewing galleries so friends and family can see the pics; if not wait for them to post but whatever you do, don’t make the professional photographer and videographer’s more difficult by blocking their view of the couple trying to get all your snapchats.
5. “When the babies start crying, you better start flying “
I’ve done many weddings and a lot of them include little ones. And I must say that babies know when the show is about to begin. Its like as soon as they see bridesmaids being escorted in and they test out their vocal cords !! If you are attending a kid friendly, please be respectful of the couple. Like cellphone rings your cute little angel can be quite distracting. If you’re planning to attend the wedding come early (see tip 2) so you can scope out bathrooms or other places to take your child in case a tantrum occurs. Little Jr. is certainly welcome but your don’t want your child to be the reason no one can hear the wedding vows being exchanged.
6. Leave the kiddies at home if asked.
Some couples love the idea of including younger guests at their reception, while other couples opt completely out of having children at their wedding for their own personal reasons and they have every right to, after all, it is their wedding. Most engaged couples set the tone early in writing on the formal invitation. Some couples want their adult guests including parents to be able to enjoy a romantic evening without the little ones. Plan for a sitter…and a back up sitter. Some brides and grooms offer on site professional sitters at there weddings that can be just as fun as the adult party.
Bonus tip: Have fun, come ready to celebrate the couple and don’t forget your dancing shoes!!
Till next time,